A central figure in the field of psychological work is often "the inner critic". This is the term used to describe the role in the inner team or the inner voice that voices negative criticism. Depending on how strong this inner voice is, it can make our lives quite unpleasant. To quote Ellen Hendriksen: "We are each our own worst critic".
However, if we start to also criticise this critical voice for its existence, we quickly find ourselves in a vicious circle of self-devaluation.
Instead, it is really helpful to change your attitude towards your inner critic. If we invite them in and take their questions seriously, the critical inner voice actually has enormous value for us.
The tone makes the music: if, for example, after oversleeping, I ask myself why this had to happen to me again, it probably sounds a bit harsh in the inner dialogue and more like a rhetorical question. But if I change this tone towards a loving attitude and am actually curious to find out the answer, I might realise that I had problems falling asleep. If I continue on this journey of discovery and assume that the critical voice actually means well for me, I could, for example, discover that I could take better care of myself and my sleep hygiene.
By changing the way we judge the critical voice, we can transform it from an inner bully to a self-caring and loving part.
It takes some practice to catch yourself criticising yourself and to create mental space to change your view of this role. I invite you to simply give it a try and see how it changes your life.
Enjoy exploring!
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